Learning curves and relationships

Found out something interesting tonight. Chris's ex attacked me last week - unbeknownst to me. He didn't tell me what (for which I'm thankful - I don't need or WANT to know!) but he did make it clear that he went up in arms about her attack. I was very thankful he defended me, but the whole situation feels odd. I know many, many women have been in my shoes before, and I'm not the first woman to feel a bit odd in the situation of being defended to an ex, but it's the first time I've been in this position... and believe me! it feels strange. I don't think he even would have told me anything about it, except I caught something in his conversation with me last week - something he wasn't saying, actually - and he admitted tonight that she'd attacked me. It's nice to know he's my defender... even when I don't know I need one.

I'm constantly learning new things about relationships. Being 29 and being engaged for the first time is an odd thing. You think that at this point in life you know a fair amount about life, and relationships, and families... but even so, living out the things you've learned/observed in other people, your learning curve by experience is still awfully steep.